A 37-year-old professional woman. Well put together. Depressed about her relationship status..."it's going nowhere."

She would meet people, go out on dates, get into a relationship with them...and would eventually break up.

This was not a case of traumatized childhood, bad parenting, or a father that did not show her love. This was a skills issue.

She had not clarified what she wanted in a partner...I call it the list of non-negotiables. These are the must-haves.

Once she had the list, I explained to her what usually would happen...she would overlook it....and each time she did, she would be sending her sub-concious mind a message saying that she was not worthy of having a relationship with the person she wanted.

Our work was on supporting her in sticking to her list and as she would her self-esteem would improve. This was wrapped up in 3 sessions. The reason I am writing this? Well she emailed me a year later...she is getting married!!! I LOVE MY WORK!!!!